Kindness is the initial idea and biblical hospitality is the full-developed product. Kindness says, “you’re a human too” while hospitality says, “your humanity makes you worth my effort, time and investment.” Kindness notices others. Hospitality invests in others…Kindness says “I notice you.” Biblical hospitality says, “I want to know you.”
Because asking for help is a challenge for me, I’m more likely to drop obscure hints and hope someone miraculously clues in and helps. It’s not the best solution. And by “not the best” I mean that it rarely works the way I want it to. However, the more God is pointing out this flaw in me the more I’m having eyes to notice others around me constantly throwing out the obscure hints for help. I call it the “silent ask.”
Crying on cue…can you do it? I can’t. I’m not prone to be outwardly emotional although that doesn’t mean I’m devoid of feelings. I just rarely cry in public. In fact, it took my husband a while to learn that if I did cry on his shoulder, the tears would dry up as soon as he said something. Something about someone speaking to me while I’m sobbing doesn’t mesh well for my brain and instantly the tears dry up. All this, combined with the fact that I’m a terrible seamstress, means that I wouldn’t have been able to have much of a career in biblical times. Let me explain…
Connections take effort. Friendships take work. Developing these relationships can be awkward. But, as with many things, the risk is worth it all. But HOW do we start? WHERE do we begin?…Friendships don’t happen overnight. And, unfortunately, sometimes it takes numerous attempts before you find a true friend among the fringe friends. BUT! Just because it may take a while, doesn’t mean the process or attempts are in vain. If nothing else, as we actively seek out friendships, we become bolder and more confident in who we are, and what we have to offer. We learn the things we value in a friendship and we learn how to be more of the type of friend we wish to have.