The feeling of accomplishment as those stickers filled in the spaces, whether it be for attendance, memorization, or something else, made me feel so accomplished. Give me all of those gold stars!!!! That shiny gold star was the goal for so many of us during the elementary years. As an adult I got a gold star I didn’t want. I didn’t know there was a gold star that wasn’t shiny & positive. I didn’t know that a gold star could carry the weight of grief instead of accomplishment.
For many, Memorial Day is a weekend for boating, burgers, and enjoying the start of summer with only passing acknowledgement of the sacrifice of so many military men and women. For many, Mother’s Day is a time to celebrate their awesome mommas or get adorable handprint crafts from their little ones. These responses aren’t wrong! However, we must remember that not everyone can approach these days with the same sense of celebration. How do we support and encourage those grieving during the month of May?