For me, as an introvert with social anxiety, it makes no sense that I should be pursuing public speaking. It makes no sense that I should be passionate about hospitality. On paper, I should be a hermit probably. If people could see the inner thoughts I have when it comes to put my actions where my words are, they’d probably be astounded I didn’t cancel everything and run away to Barbados…That being said, my social anxiety does not give me a “pass” on hospitality. I don’t ever want my heart rate or sweaty palms serve as an excuse to not lavish love intentionally on the people around me.
I don’t know anyone who doesn’t like cookies. Your favorite cookie may vary, but a cookie is a pretty universal food. I personally love making homemade cookies and for a long time I felt like store-bought cookies were the rejected weird cousin in the cookie family. I mean they were part of them, but no one really liked them as much. As a mom, I’ve realized this is simply not the case. Store-bought cookies are better than no cookies at all. In fact, my kids’ refined palettes typically prefer store-bought many times. (I will never understand that.)
If we want to raise up the next generation to show hospitality, we have to instill in them that their space, whether it is a playroom, bedroom, or the family room, is theirs to share, not preserve. When you tell your son to clean the playroom before friends come over, remind them that if it is a mess, his friends won’t have as much fun because they will be unable to find all the toys. When you tell your daughter to put away the toys strewn around the family room, remind her that she can pick up her sibling’s toys too as a way to show kindness. If our kiddos are not taught the “why” behind keeping their spaces tidy, there is no incentive for them to do so as adults when no one is nagging them. This careful instruction is a worthwhile investment because as they learn that everyone feels more comfortable and welcomed when a room is picked up, they begin to see the mess and clutter as a hindrance to hospitality.